Marriage Development Life Cycle (MDLC)

How to get a nice wife!!! – Guide for all the bachelors and advice for all the married people

This info I got from a friend through the e-mail. It is very informative for all bachelors who are pulling their socks to begin a new phase of life. Hope this will help you to find your “Cinderella”.
All the Best….!!!

There are times in a person's life when he needs to take crucial decisions on his own. Marriage is one of them. Believe me, the decision on whom to marry is the most important decision a person will make in his life. After marriage, your wife is the most important person in your life. She can make or break your life. The mere thought of this is very frightening.
Some of the questions that crop up are -

a.. What sort of a girl do I marry?
b.. Will she adjust in my family?
c.. How can I decide on a girl by just meeting her for a few times?
d.. When should I get married?
e.. This is my life. So, I should choose the girl I marry, but then what if I make a mistake? .. so on and so forth.

I will try to address these & many more questions in the following sections.
The Nine Rules of Arranged Marriage

Rule 1 - Magic No. 26,27,28

In an ideal scenario, a girl goes to college at the age of 18. By the time she graduates, goes for her post graduation and/ or works for 1-2 years, she will be about 23- 24. This means that she has spent about 5 years away from her home. In the 5 years period, she would meet many smart guys at college or during her first few years on job. So, in all probability it would be difficult to find a good girl older than 24 yrs. Secondly, in Indian families there is lot of pressure on the girl's to get married by the time they become 24-25.
Statistics says that there is a generation gap after every 5 years. So, in such scenario, one would prefer to marry a girl who is about 3-4 years younger to you. Thus, working backwards, an ideal age for a guy to get married is by 28. Earlier the marriage, the better it is.
Well, as we all know, in the current market scenario, there will never be stability in our career. So, I believe there is no such thing as, "I will marry when I settle down".

Rule 2 - Subset of Marriage-able Girls

At times you hear statements like, "I am not getting the right match, I will look after 3 months, I will find a better match then". Well the truth is otherwise. The subset of unmarried girl looking for a match is fixed. >From this subset, there would be girls who would get married & there would be new girls added who would be looking for a match. The net result is that at any given time, the variety & numbers of marriage-able girls are fixed.

Rule 3 - Competition for Girls

Like all other facets of life, there is lot of competition for good girls . So, if you are looking for a girl who is post graduate, has done her Engg, is working, very beautiful, smart, from a good family etc. etc, just think again. There are other guys who are also looking for similar girls & probably they are better off than you in terms of career, looks personality etc. Given a choice every guy would like to marry Aishwarya Rai. So, set your expectations accordingly.

Rule 4 - Understanding Girls

You would have met a lot of people during your life. As we all know, it's difficult to judge a person based on a few meetings. I am sure you would agree with me that in case of girls it is even more difficult to understand them in a few meetings. I know people who are still trying to understand their wife. ;-).. Understanding your spouse is a life long assignment. So, then how do you select a girl based on a few meeting? This is where you need to take the help of your parents/friends & latest technologies like email/chat to choose your girl.

Rule 5 - Society Expectation

The selection process is tough on every one who is involved in the process. In arranged marriage, involvement of family & society is pretty high. You can't meet a girl 3-4 times & then say no to her. It is bad for her future. So, you should have a good short-listing criterion. Meet only a few girls & be sure what you are looking for. It is for the benefit of everyone involved.

Rule 6 - Marriage Between Equals

Unlike love marriage, in arranged marriage you also marry into the girl's family. In arranged marriages, family support plays a major role in ensuring a successful marriage. This is where the compatibility of social status, family values & caste/religion plays a major role. It's important to note that in case there is a perfect match between the two families, the marriage is destined to succeed.

Rule 7 - Know Yourself

Unlike love marriage, in arranged marriage you first marry a person & then fall in love. So, it's very important that you do a self-assessment on the kind of person you would love. They say, "Opposite attract", while they also say, "Bird of same feather flock together". So, you take a call on what sort of person you like. Take a pen & paper; write down the kind of attributes you are looking for in a girl. Say, she should ideally have the looks of Sonia, the style of Monica, the voice of Sheena, the patience of Rashmi. You will certainly not find the perfect girl , but then you would have a good idea of what you are looking for. The secret here is to set some minimum criteria for selection . Don't forget rule no.3 here.

Rule 8 - Girl's Beauty

A girl's looks attract, but then no one wants to end up marrying a dumb. It is like buying your bike. When you initially buy it, you are crazy about the looks, but later on you love it for its reliability, fuel economy & comfort level. Similarly, a girl's looks are important, but then it should not be the most important criteria. Later on in life, you will get bored of her looks. It is then that her personality & behavior will make all the difference to your marriage . I am sure your parents will be able to advice you a lot better on this topic .

Rule 9 - Taking Advice

As I have mentioned in the next rule, it's very important that the final decision on whom to marry must necessarily be yours. However, don't do the mistake of isolating yourself from the world while planning your marriage. Discuss with your parents & very close friends on this issue. They are your well wishers . Secondly, in such important matters it's necessary that you analyze all possibilities. Remember, I am not suggesting that you follow others' advice, but don't forget to take their advice.

Rule 10 - Own Decision

All said & done, it's your marriage & your life that is at stake. Once you are married, you & your wife are the only persons who will be facing the music. Don't marry a girl just because your parents or friends asked you to do so. After marriage, if things don't work out & you end up saying, "It's because of my friends or my parents that I married you", then your marriage is destined for disaster. If the girl is of your choice, it is you who will be responsible for whatever happens. That's when the marriage works out perfectly. So, ensure that you marry the girl of your choice.

How to approach the selection process?

>From the day, a person decides to get married; the selection process takes a minimum of 3 months. The whole process needs a lot of patience & commitment. The ideal steps to be followed are:
A. Definition Phase

Define the minimum criteria for the kind of life partner you are looking for in terms of education, physical appearance, social status, family values, future career plans. Remember the Rule 3 here.

B. Lead Generation Phase

Place ads in various newspapers, magazines, websites, through friends, family friends, family societies & association etc. You need to exhaust all possible means of getting bio-datas at one go. Remember the Rule 2 here.

C. Short Listing Phase

Based on your selection criteria, short-list the interesting bio-datas. The general process followed for correspondence is as follows:
1. The initiator sends a one page profile of himself/herself.
2. Based on the profile, the receiver sends his/her one page profile along with request for detailed profile, photo, and horoscope.
3. The initiator then sends the requested information along with a request for similar information.
4. The receiver sends similar information.
5. If the bio-data is selected, it is passed over to the next phase.

D. Casual Interaction Phase

Based on short listing, about 7 to 10 bio-datas are taken forwarded to this phase. The next step to follow here is to exchange email/ chat ids. The guy & the girl then interact for 10 - 15 days to try & judge mutual compatibility through email/chat.

E. Family Interaction Phase

Based on the earlier phase, about 5 leads are taken for consideration in this phase. During this phase, the parents get involved & check the background information about the families to find mutual compatibility.

F. Dating Phase
Based on the earlier phase about 3 leads are taken forward to this phase. During this phase, the guy & the girl interact by going out alone for 2-3 times. The guy needs to prepare a set of simple questions like who is your favorite star, what are your hobbies? He needs to use his judgment to analyze the girl based on her responses.

G. The D-day Phase
Finally, the D-day comes when the guy has to select the girl he wants to spend his life with. If the process if followed systematically, there will be no ambiguity in deciding who should be your life partner.
Finally, my dear friends, marriage is all about compromises. In spite of all the planning that you do, there are a lot of uncertainties in a marriage. In fact this is the best part about marriage. Just remember that the person you marry must be of your choice. In such case, there would be no going back for both of you.
A few words of advice: To make your marriage a success; just believe in the age-old virtue ,

"Never do anything to others that you don't like for yourself?

Happy maried life in advance......!!!!!

Pune to Bangalore bus Facilities

Distance between Pune to Bangalore is about 800 km.
The cities are well connected through all the 3 modes i.e., Air, Train & Bus.

But Air travel is always expensive & recent fuel price hike made the fares to go up further.
The trains available are very limited and whenever you logged to book a ticket you end up in waiting list status. And to get a ticket you have to book it 20- 30 days prior to travel…!
And two more problems with trains are inflexibility of time. Train departure timings are like 1.00 AM, 4.00 AM, 8.05 AM & 11.45 AM.
And the travel time is also about 18 to 24 hrs.

But for last moment travel planner Bus ends up as best option.
There are lot of travels operate between Bengaluru & pune such as
KSRTC
VRL
RAJ
SHARMA
NAKODA etc
But with my travel experience KSRTC is the best service provider.
The KSRTC Buses are at times like 3 PM, 7 PM, 9 PM & 10 PM.
KSRTC offers only semi sleeper (presently…!!) with A/C
The fare from Pune to Bengaluru is Rs.923/- & From Bengauru to Pune its Rs. 900/-
I have travelled with 9 PM bus. It will reach bengaluru by around 11.50 AM i.e 15 Hr journey.
The buses are well maintained and service is good. The bus will stop at good hotels for the dinner & breakfast unlike other travels which will take you to any road side dhaba’s. In the Bus you will be provided a water bottle & a face freshener for your face. You will get to watch a Kannada/Hindi movie too.
The bus will be carry only passengers & there is no luggage carrier. So bus will not stop anywhere else other than for food. The bus use to be travelling at 100 KMPH & even more at good roads. The bus will leave the good cars like scorpio, innova too behind, isn’t that good.

The other travels I travelled are through Sharma by Non A/c Semi sleeper & Semi sleeper. The service is very bad. Looks like the bus never been driven more than 40 KMPH.
The buses are at 5.30PM, 7.30 PM & 10.00PM
I traveled through 5.30 PM bus reached B’luru by 2 PM i.e 18.5 Hr
And the there is bus at 10.00 PM which is combination of Semisleeper & sleeper which left at 10.00 PM & reached B’luru by 6 PM i.e.. 18 Hr.

The fare of the bus is about Rs. 600 for Non A/c Semisleeper & 700 for Non A/c Sleeper.

The other travels like VRL & Raj travels are famous for theire service however theire fare is Rs.1200/-

I give complete thumbs up for KSRTC......!!!

Sirigannadam Gelge- Sirigannadam Balge

Sleep…..The gateway to dream land

I placed my head on the pillow of the bed. The atmosphere is cold and squeezing. My body is paining with all the tiredness because of the hard work in the office. Nothing is going-on in the mind. The mind just wanted to go away from this world. My eyes are getting heavy and the eyelids are becoming so heavy that keeping them open is like doing a weightlifting in the Olympics. And finally the eyelids won and they took me as a prisoner. The mind is loosen from my grip & got the freedom to run away from the real world. The eyelids became the guards for the world of mind and took all measures so that I can’t escape from their prison. I decided to face whatever happens in the future because I am helpless being a prisoner and well guarded in the world of mind with no possibility of escaping in near future. The journey begins, first I made to fell asleep and all the issues, pains and worries related to the real world are being taken from my pockets and the almighty Mind ordered its guards to through them out of its premises. Then the angels of the world of Mind took me in their possession and took me to a world, called “The Dream land”. It’s the land with no fears, no limits, no pain, no loss, and no gain. Then with order from Almighty Mind, the Angels cuffed me with a dream, a dream of me being in a beach with my most loved ones, enjoying the moment. The time has been made to pause. The layers of water sailing like a waves of music. The feel of water touching our feet’s like velvet on our feet’s. The sun is just touching the surface of water and creating a moment like the sea is in a playing mood and is about to through a yellow ball towards us and we need to be ready to catch it. The sky is turned into golden carpet as it is been spread in the honors of a princess about to land. Then suddenly there is a huge siren goes wildly in the whole dream land. The Angels rushed me before Almighty Mind of Dream land. During the course of travelling I am looking back at the beach, I don’t want to go, but I have been forced. Then the Almighty Mind ordered the guards to through me out of the prison, to the world “The real world”, the word of lie, and world of pain, world of hate and world of loss. As soon as I been dragged by the guards to the gate of the prison, the gate guards opened the gate and thrown me out. And my eyelids open and it’s my Mobile, it is buzzing and it’s the alarm…..!

I got out of bed hesitantly to face the reality of real world. And with the hope that I will be taken back to the prison of “Dream land” soon because of fresh crimes I will do today.

Indo-US nuclear Deal

For last six to seven months the Headlines in the all the Major News papers in India is about Indo-US Nuclear Deal, whether it’s about Hyde act, opposition by opposition parties or INC – Left party meetings or the proving of Majority by Government. And now about the ongoing meeting of NSG group for the approval of deal.

But the question is why government is giving so much importance to the deal…?
What’s in it…..? Why it is so significant to India. ..?

After 1970 nuclear test by India there is lot of sanctions imposed by the other countries which also involves “not to supply uranium & not to transfer nuclear technology”. So this sanction made India handicap in implementing Nuclear energy development at large scale & it became out of reach from new cutting edge technology in nuclear energy development.
The energy requirement at present situation in India is enormous with higher industrial growth & growing lifestyle of the people. So it’s inevitable to increase the power production at rapid pace in coming years.

India’s major power source is Hydro project. But as Hydro projects demands large rehabilitation of civilians & it creates the threat to large forest area.

The second largest power production mode is Thermal Power production. This mode involves highest pollution creation. There are lots of efforts going on worldwide to curb greenhouse gases emission, and this method will be a setback for the efforts.

The option left out is clean & safe energy methods. So the best option available is Nuclear Power production method which will be cleaner & safer (with proper measures taken).
So to meet the growing needs of power nuclear deal is essential & inevitable for India. After the deal India can seek nuclear material from different countries & also there is all possibility that India will get new technology transfers from developed countries.

So If you look at the advantages of the nuclear energy, the Indo – US nuclear will turn out to be in favor of India. And now as India been allowed to Conduct Nuclear test without being violated the agreement, it will be a added advantage. As the deal is in last phases of conclusion & approval, hope it will turn out to be in favor of India & India will develop at rapid pace in coming years without energy crisis.

Life span of satellites

India is all set to launch its maiden Moon Exploration Mission Chandrayan-1 and every Indian is very thrilled & excited about the same.
But here I would like to discuss about the life span of satellites.


Like every starting has a ending in the universe, the satellites also will die after specific span of time which is called “Life Span”. For example; The scheduled “Chandrayan-1” mission’s life is 2 Years.
The life span of satellites depends largely on their size, or to be precise , it depends on how much liquid fuel they carry aboard . The liquid fuel is used to operate small rocket engines, the rocket engines are very important for the satellite (there are three types of forces acting on the satellite in space causing the satellite to deviate from its course). The ground station on earth uses these small rockets to perform maneuvers necessary to keep the satellite in the same position in the sky (usually they perform two maneuvers every two weeks, north-south maneuver & east-west maneuver). So we can direct our antenna's here at earth(parabolic reflectors or dish) to this specific point in space & receive the broadcasted TV & radio channels & also to send tele-commands from the ground station on earth to control the satellite , otherwise we need a special type of antenna's (half a billion US$ each) to track & locate the satellite.

The largest satellites out there are the communication satellites (tv, radio, telephony) & they use the geostationary orbit (about 36,000 km above sea level & above the equator) & the satellite orbit around the earth depends on the speed of the satellite, once the satellite is delivered to its orbit by the rocket it was carried on, the satellite will take that orbit speed, comm. sat. also have the longest life span (it’s a round 17 to 20yrs these days) , before the satellite runs out of fuel , the ground station performs one last maneuver to send the satellite to a place called “satellite graveyard”. It’s an orbit around the earth used to retire old useless satellites & they become junk on space, a growing problem, this is when in it come to satellites using the geostationary orbit , for satellites using lower orbits they may be put on re-entry course so they burn before they reach the earth.

Waste moons - The Dead Satellies

Till 3rd October 1957 Our Earth had only one satellite, that’s the moon.
But on 4th October 1957 man added a sibling to moon, “Sputnik-1” the first artificial satellite. Since then space science has developed at unbelievable pace. The result is, there are approximately 2465 satellites orbiting the earth and every year number of countries launching their satellites by their own facility or with the help of other launch capable countries
(Remember the recent landmark India set by launching 10 satellites at a time.....!)

But out of all the satellites out there only around 570 satellites are active presently that is 7% of total satellites in space
So what I was wondering is what happens to all other satellites …?? Where are they..? Are they dead…?
Yes every satellite has its own life span which varies from months to years. The maximum life span of the satellites achieved presently is about 20 years. (The scheduled chandrayan-1 satellites life span is 2 years). So what happen to them after the set life span?

There are two methods presently countries are using to dump the waste / dead satellites
1. The satellites will be moved to the earth’s atmosphere which is called as “re-entry Course” where during entering the earth’s atmosphere the satellite will get burned out. But sometimes the satellite will not get completely burned and the un-burnt debris will reach the earth (like an asteroid). In this case there is possibility of damage to the property or life of citizens. But all the care will be taken by the space bodies that, in cases when the satellite debris not completely burned it will fall in to sea
2. In the most common method the dead satellites will move into the orbit called “graveyard orbit”. This orbit is about few miles above the “geocentric orbit” where maximum satellites will be placed. The satellite which is in its final stage of life span will be moved to this area so that it can be dumped without affecting the other active satellites.
3. And the newest technology to get rid of dead satellites is to destroy them in space. You might have heard about the recent china’s anti satellite missile test. In this case the satellite will be targeted from the ground and will be attacked by a missile which will destroy the dead satellite.

So as everything has an end in the universe, satellites are also die. And before their death they had done their best to the purpose. Look like man is the only creature who doesn’t give his best of his target….!
Thank you satellites for helping, us to use all the cutting-edge technologies. May god rest you all in peace.

UFO- The Flying Saucers

When I was travelling back to my room in our company cab as usual the sky was clear, no major clouds, no possibility of rain, the sun was dripping down creating a golden carpet with the use of tiny cloud pockets. I was enjoying the sky picture, suddenly I saw a plane passing through the golden carpet & suddenly got a thought of UFO’s

UFO’s the so called Unidentified Flying Objects. I wonder all the stories about UFO’s are real…??

During 2007 in Britain alone there are reports of about more than 100 incidents of UFO’s observation. If we look into the history of UFO’s and the research work carried out by US in 50’s there are nothing so called UFO’s.

But with the exploration of universes, new galaxies, new planets etc we can clearly imagine that universe is infinite. As the scientists have uncovered the existence of galaxies which are bigger than our milky way, with the stars 1000 times bigger than our own Sun, we cannot rule out the existence of earth’s twin. And meantime we cannot rule out the existence of far superior, intelligent, powerful & technologically advanced creature in the universe.

I have a friend who uses to describe that, for us atom is a smallest object in the world. But if you compare the atom and our solar system they resembles. Atom consists of nucleus around which electrons revolve; the nucleus is the energy reservoir. Similarly our solar system consists sun as nucleus and the planets including our earth revolve around the sun (The nucleus). Isn’t it so real…?
But what does that mean- Is the earth is a part of an atom for somebody else. Is we are a part of smallest particles for somebody….!!!

I am not going to tell that we are as small as fraction of an electron, But if we go through the comparison we are negligible are nonexistent in the infinite universe.

So when you next time here about UFO’s think before say “Common- Grow up “

Chandrayaan - The Mission to Moon

India is always lagging behind the so called developed countries in 2 fields-

One is sports
Second is science and technology.

The whole world knows that Indian contribution is huge in the history of science and technology.
But after been ruled by Britisher’s for more than 200 years and after getting freedom in 1947 the priority of India has been completely changed. We can justify that with the situation the country undergone.

But for last 15 years India is developing steadily, thanks to the liberalization concept during 90’s. But the development is not up to the potential and requirement of situation.
One of the milestones India is going to set in October 2008 is very remarkable and boosting for the whole nation. The budding youngsters will certainly be motivated to get into the core science field rather than running behind software, hardware, BPO & call centers.

About the mission to MOON:
Mission Name: Chandrayaan -1
Chandra means MOON, and yaan means VEHICLE
Some of the facts of chandrayaan are
 The Idea of Chandrayaan evolved in 1999
 National Lunar Mission Task Force created by ISRO in 2000
 Chandrayaan-1 got approval in November 2003
 The planned mission date is October 2008.
 The travel time of shuttle is 5.5 days
 The total budget of Chandrayaan-1 Rs.3800-million
 launch will be executed from Sriharikota
 Two Mini Synthetic Aperture Radar (Mini SAR) of NASA been used in Chandrayaan-1
 The launching Vehicle is PSLV
 The Indian payloads on board Chandrayaan-1 include:
o a Terrain Mapping Camera (TMC)
o a Hyper Spectral Imager (HySI)
o a High-Energy X-ray spectrometer (HEX)
o a Lunar Laser Ranging Instrument (LLRI) and
o a Moon Impact Probe (MIP)
Some of historical points in MOON’s exploration:
 The first leap in Lunar observation was made by Galileo Galilei who used his new invention the telescope to observe mountains and craters on the lunar surface.

 The first man-made object to reach the Moon was the unmanned Soviet probe Luna 2 in September 1959

 Humans first landed on the Moon on July 20, 1969. The first man to walk on the lunar surface was Neil Armstrong

 The last man to walk on the Moon was in December 1972 by Eugene Cernan during Apollo 17 mission.

Being a Space science follower, I really feel happy and proud that India is setting such a landmark. Really 2008 is turning out to be a great year for Indian history as India created history in Olympics & now about to create a landmark in history of space science. Hope these 2 events will lead Indian progress in coming years in sports and science.

I really want to see India being termed as superpower before I die.

For further details Visit the official website: www.isro.org/chandrayaan-1

Prayer

Oh my god....!!! I forgot to contact the customer for an appointment, still 5o% of the project work is pending and tomorrow is the dead line....

Huh...! What a day it was.... Still back is paining.... reached room after travelling 1hr in the company cab, but still the mind is encircled with the work thoughts.. this is almost the day to day scenario in most of the employees.Even after getting back to home we will be thinking about the office work.

Isn't it really bad..?? Yes it is, and everybody knows it , still unable to keep a barrier between work and personal life....

So is the solution "prayer".

I think prayer is a tool for an individual which eases the pressure. For a brief period of time you are completely involved in a activity which is completely par from your personal & work life. this will act like an switchover catalyst.

I agree that prayer is not the only solution to relax your mind, but certainly it is one of the strong tool.

So prayer is not only a religious activity, its a activity to relax your self, ease your stress